Hey Sexy Campers!

Cooper here. On behalf of Ginger, Dylan, and the many wonderful Swingsetters putting this trip together for you, I want to welcome you to paradise for Life on the Swingset’s tenth trip to Desire Resort Riviera Maya! Over the years, as we’ve grown, we’ve been able to twist the resort more and more into being the space we truly want it to be. That has meant more acceptance of bi men, alternative relationships, trans, and gay guests. We are so pleased with what this trip has become as we enter this year. The number one thing that we’re proud of, though, is the respect that our people have for each other, for the staff, for the locals, for everybody. Respect is such an important attribute, and it is so frightfully rare in the world.

It would not be what it is without you, the newbies; you, the returning guests; you, the Desire vets, taking a chance with our merry band of hedonists!

Desire, for us, is about exploration and community. It’s about learning about ourselves, our likes, our dislikes, and things we had no idea we’d like. It’s about learning about our partners, our friends. Like camp, it’s that wonderful place where you can meet new people, bond intensely, and then have them as lifelong friends thereafter. I’ve never met a greater group of human beings than I encounter each year on this trip. 

And they’re fucking sexy, too!

I encourage you to drink deeply in your time here, try new things, explore the edges of your comfort zone, knowing that if you don’t like something, it’s as simple as never doing it again (or just once more in case you did it wrong the first time) but if you DO like something, well, you may have discovered your new THING. 

There will be moments of intense discovery, the wondrous ecstasy, and there will also be emotions and difficulty. It’s understandable that in a place with such emotional cache, we will all inevitably hit the feels. But when it happens, look around, you’re surrounded by people like you! People who will help if they can.

One important note. With the exception of our amazing travel agent Jim from Char Travel, everybody putting this trip together are volunteers working to spend their time and vacation to make your trip awesome! If you encounter someone awesome or helpful (it's likely) be sure to thank them! 🙂

On this page, you’ll find a bit of a roadmap for your experience here. But remember, your Desire is like a choose your own adventure experience. Yours won’t look like anybody else’s, and that’s wonderful!  Chart your own path, define this adventure for yourself!

Carpe Noctem – Seize the Night!
Cooper S. Beckett

Frequently Asked Questions

We believe 100% that all consent should be enthusiastic hell yesses. This means that before you do anything, even as little as touching, for the first time, you must ask. If you are a yes for something, say yes, if you're a no, say no. If you're a maybe, say no. You 100% can change your mind at any time, even in the middle of sex. If someone says no to you, be gracious and generous, because they're taking care of themselves.

Consent is also not a constant. Just because you could touch someone/fuck someone yesterday doesn't mean they want your hand in their crotch as a greeting. Always ask. Ask until they tell you that you can stop asking.

If, at any time, we hear of consent violations, we will take action that may keep you from being involved in scheduled events, or even leaving the resort and not being allowed on future trips. We've only had to deal with a handful of these in 9 years, and we take it very seriously.

There aren't any official rules to govern how you play, who you play with, and what barriers you use. We, of course, recommend the most risk aware sex you can have, knowing the risks, and mitigating them as best you can with barriers. That said, you won't be shamed for playing at the barrier level you're comfortable with. Just be aware of your fluids.

Before you arrive, discuss with your partner(s) their comfort level about touch and fluids, and determine where you will play for the week. Before you play with anybody, have a conversation with them about their safer sex/risk aware sex practices, when they've been tested last, and make your decisions based on that information.

Most of our guests used condoms for all penetrative sex. Some of our guests use condoms and other barriers for oral sex. (Click here for the best saran wrap oral barrier!) Some don't have penetrative sex at all. One thing that many people don't know is that, even with washing, some infections and viruses can remain on sex toys, so we HIGHLY recommend you use condoms on all toys you're planning to share. If you're borrowing a toy from someone else, please use a condom on it unless they've explicitly told you that you don't have to, and you're comfortable with their status.

You are free to be naked nearly anywhere on the property with the following exceptions. We have worked with the resort to “evolve their thinking” over the past several years to make the dress code more inclusive and less gender based. Regardless of your gender identity, there are just a few simple rules for clothing to abide by.

Must have at least a cover-up in the lobby.

Must have shoes and a coverup (both top and bottom) at the breakfast and lunch buffets.

Must have long pants/dress, shoes, and covered top at the dinner buffet.

Must have dress shoes, long pants/dress, nice shirt/top, at Suki & Sahlo.

#1 Rule: Don't put your junk on anybody else's chairs/stuff.

We've been told both by the resort and by bi guys who have attended in the past that this is one of the most bi friendly and exploration friendly trips they've ever been on/seen. There WILL be guys kissing, guys fucking, and more. Intolerance will not be tolerated.

Many of our guests have been on multiple trips and thus known each other for a long time, and this is often the only time they get to spend together all year. While most of our group is incredibly outgoing and will welcome you in, you may have to approach and introduce yourself. Remember, you are your best advocate, so walk up and say hi!

Yes. This is something to keep in mind while on the beach beds, lying naked, or having sex. All beaches in Cancun are public, so people can and will walk up and down the beaches, some with children. They are warned at either end of what they might see, yet they still do. This said, you should behave at your comfort level.

It is explicitly not allowed at the bars, restaurants, or in the lobby. There is a designated play room off the disco, but sex is allowed throughout the resort, and you are likely to see it almost everywhere.  Most sex happens up by the hot tub, on the beds by the pool, on the beach beds, or in rooms. If no one is having sex around you, you may want to consider whether you want to be the one that starts it, or if you should find another place. Please be mindful of those around you.

With the exception of the restaurants (see dress details in the side bar) and the lobby, you can be naked anywhere on the resort, including the beach. This is only what's allowed, however, and should not be considered a must. If you are more comfortable in a swimsuit, or tshirt and shorts, please feel free. Being naked outside for the first time can be overwhelming!

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Pure and simply, this trip is 100% a la carte, and you should treat it that way. If things intrigue you, attend, if they don't, don't. If you're curious about a topic, but determine it's not for you, or you'd rather be somewhere else, no one will judge you for leaving and that event leader will not be saddened by it. You do you.

Some of our attendees get really into the theme night costumes, and go big every night with wildly prepared costumes that'd be right at home as convention cosplay. Some wear something on theme, or only participate a few times during the week. Some don't participate in the themes at all. No matter how you're dressed on theme nights, you will be just as welcome as everybody else.

Generally speaking, the themed portion of the evening runs from 7ish to 10ish (resort time always comes with an ish). As long as your costume covers your bits (see restaurant dress code for more info) you can wear yours to dinner. Some people love to show off their costume all evening, others put it on for ten minutes. Whatever you're comfortable with!

Yes. You should always be prepared with anything you might need for sex. You will be given a char travel bag and many people make theirs into makeshift kits to bring around. Also, if you want toys at the ready, bring those too.

Those who've been to Desire without our group will know the policy of the resort, that your phone camera should stay covered at all times. On our trips, we know that part of the wonderful thing is being able to revisit our memories through pictures.

Our official policy is that everybody in a picture must give consent to be in that picture, even people with their backs turned. So if you want to take pictures, be VERY aware of who is in the background. If you want to post an image to social media, everybody in that picture must give their consent for that. There are no exceptions to this rule.

If you see that someone has taken a picture, and you think you might be in that picture, you should feel free to ask them to see it, and if you are in it, they will crop you out or delete it. If they do not, please let a Swingset representative know.

Every day, from around 4pm until 7pm (ish) a large chunk of the resort guests congregate in the rooftop hot tub. (The tub is the size of a small pool, and can accomodate a lot of guests.) There is a swim up bar at the hot tub, thus, hot tub happy hour. If you want to meet people, to make dinner plans, to be voyeurs or exhibitionists, this is the place to be. Also, thanks to being later in the day, the Quintana Roo sun isn't as harsh.

Next to the hot tub are cubbies, where you can store your sex toys, robes, towels, shoes, etc. We've never had a problem with theft. Please don't claim the hot tub beds or chairs with your belongings, as other people may want to use them. If you are going to be “right back” to use them, then feel free to put your things on them.

The lobby desk can help you with lost and found items, and seriously, nearly everything lost gets returned to the lobby. Many a phone has gone missing, and been found there.

Depending on what it is, like toothpaste, headache or cold medicine, odds are someone on the resort would be happy to share it with you. You can ping our Discord Chat, or put a post-it on the lobby window, ask a host, or just ask around. If you have something to share, please do. Remember, sharing is caring!

While the resort proclaims tipping isn't required, the staff does an amazing amount of work for us year after year. A good rule of thumb is to bring singles and tip people throughout the week. Leave money for your cleaning crew. Some people tip more, some less. Anything you tip them is appreciated.

If your restrictions are small or large, let the people at the desk know upon arrival and they will notate in your file. The resort has great gluten free options, as well as many other accommodations.

Some of the rooms come with a specific beach bed, but the rest are up for grabs. You will have to speak to Rene on the beach early in the day if you'd like to reserve one. Unlike last year, beach beds are only reserved for the day so they cannot be hoarded for the week. If you would like a beach bed, but don't get up early, make friends with someone who has one. Sharing is caring.

There are things that all of us aren't into, and there are things that we're into that might make others blush or turn away in shock. We are an inclusive community on this trip, and encourage everybody to explore as they feel compelled. This is true with the caveat of being respectful to those around you. If you see something that shocks you, don't make a big deal out of it, don't shame the people doing it, remove YOURSELF from the area. Or just turn around. People will make the same concessions to your kinky dealios.

Yes! The resort itself has a number of coordinated tours, as well as boat rentals and snorkeling. Our wonderful transport company CARM can also help you coordinate your off resort excursions. Often groups of people will want to do an excursion together, so talk to those around you to plan something great!

Only two events require signups, the group dinner and speed meet & greet, and both of these require them so we can get a (reasonably) accurate head count. You can sign up for these on this page. You can also sign up on resort, but TRY NOT to sign up day of.

The resort's water is filtered, but we would not recommend drinking the tap water as it has effected people in the past. There are bottles of water in your room fridge, and they'll be refilled daily. Some people choose to brush their teeth with the bottled water, some don't. All water at the bars and restaurants, as well as ice, and the food washing water is purified and perfectly safe to consume.

On the glass windows of the lobby, we have a post-it wall. Here you can write things you're looking for, things you want to do, missed connections, and more. By the end of the week it's both gloriously filthy and genuinely lovely.

Two restaurants, Sahlo (sometimes called the white restaurant) and Suki (the sushi place) take reservations, but sometimes you are able to walk-in. Reservations should be made early in the day at the restaurant. The lunch & dinner buffets (Tentazione and Arrecife) do not need reservations. If you are planning to eat at a more popular time (7:30-8:30) it may be more difficult to get seated.

When you arrive at the resort we give you the beads to create a name necklace that you can wear even while naked, making remembering someone's name as easy as a glance down.

We implemented the bead code as a helpful ice breaker. Your colored beads are not meant to replace conversation, and should not be seen as an invitation but a means to start a conversation. Wear some, wear all, wear none. Up to you! Click the image below to expand it.

At night there are a lot of mosquitos and other bugs. We recommend bringing bug spray that you're comfortable with, as well as any medication you might take when bitten. Long pajama pants for night pizza isn't a bad idea either.

No. C'mon…

Check in time is 3pm. That said, since Saturday is a group turnover day, sometimes rooms will not be ready when you arrive. If that is the case, the resort will hold your luggage, and you are free to wander/eat/meet and greet. We recommend having a lightweight change of clothes in an easily accessible place for you to put on when you arrive (or if you're like some of us, at the airport.)

Desire is an amazing place with or without the Swingset. That said, we've cultivated a very specific open and accepting vibe in our group, best consent practices, and the like. Those at the resort around our trip do not necessarily practice the same. There will be a lot of Swingsetters on resort both before and after our week, so find out who else will be around and start the party early with them.

Transportation to and from the resort is included on our trip. You will receive travel vouchers via email. When you leave the airport, walk straight out, cross the first driveway to the transportation island. There you will find our transpo company. They will take you to the resort. You will also be given a travel time for your return to the airport. Be ready and checked out of the resort in time for your pickup.

You have a menu in room and can order quite a few items for delivery to your room. The food is free, the delivery service has a charge associated with it. In the past that charge has been $5/trip.

Every morning you will get an update from Dylan with the day's events. If you're someone who disconnects on resort, you can find a schedule posted in the front window of the lobby.

Please keep the following basic things in mind.

1 – If your mouth is on genitals and you intend to kiss someone else, please either rinse that mouth out thoroughly with a mouthwash containing serious amounts of alcohol (listerine for example) or actual shots of hard liquor (vodka for example), or have subsequent people explicitly opt in.

2 – Take care of your mouths in general! It's super easy to lose track of time and to end up dizzy from activity and want to drop in bed. Take the time to take care of your mouth, it will allow you to more happily allow your mouth to take care of others!

3 – If you end up with a cut, sore, or anything else with your mouth please get explicit opt-ins or temporarily opt out of makeouts. These things happen, it's a ok, andyou'll likely get opt-ins to LOTS of other things.

Find out more in the specific Disco Dungeon FAQ below, or visit the Disco Dungeon page to learn more.

Disco Dungeon FAQ

No! There is ample room for spectators and the bar is open. The play area will be roped off with only one entrance, and there will be no play across the rope line. Part of the intention is to provide safe and comfortable access to all, including those who are only interested in watching.

No! If you’re curious about bottoming (receiving), there will be a number of extremely capable and experienced service tops who will be happy to take you for as mild or wild of a ride as your interests may dictate. Explicit, informed and enthusiastic consent is always the theme.

Sex is never required, and can be negotiated with your partner. However, please don't take up the kinky equipment with non-kinky sex.

A service top is an experienced top/dominant who enjoys kink enough that they’re happy to play without any kind of reciprocation or sexual gratification. They’re happy to top as a service as opposed to topping as part of a personal relationship. Our service tops have a wide variety of skills and interests and will all take the time to find out what you want and get you where you’d like to go.

Absolutely, just let one of the DMs know who you’d like to work with.

Absolutely. All the service tops have some toys that are loaners, and are also happy to be mentors while you play with your partner. If you’re new to kink, we strongly recommend you come to the workshops on Monday afternoon. Most/all of the service tops will be there, along with the dungeon gear.

The service tops will offer at least the following list of services:

  • Impact play (flogging, spanking, paddles, crops, and whatever else may be handy and up your alley
  • Sensory play (hot, cold, rough, smooth, soft, hard, blindfolds, etc)
  • Electricity play (violet wands)
  • Wax play
  • Bondage (rope, cuffs, etc.)
  • Feel free to inquire about anything special, ideally beforehand

If the station you’re looking to use is open, just talk to a DM and you can walk right in and play. Popular stations may have wait lists, as mentioned above.

There will be a DJ and dancing in the courtyard.

For an extremely helpful beginner’s resource on BDSM health and safety, as well as a general Safer Sex Guide, please visit https://nelaonline.org/publications/safer-sex-booklet. Or, for direct download of the guide formatted for mobile devices, https://nelaonline.org/files/download/43

A great resource for rope bondage safety can also be found at http://www.remedialropes.com/basic-bondage-safety

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Chat

You may already be a member of Life on the Swingset's Discord Server, if so, just ping one of us and ask to join the Desire rooms. If you're not a member, or have no idea what this whole Discord thing is, just click the button below to sign up. This button also works if you're a member of other Discord servers. For your privacy, you can modify your display name to be whatever you'd like, but we recommend first names.

Why join? You can get to know a lot of your fellow travelers before the trip even begins. Make suggestions, ask questions, get your flirting going. It's a great place to be!

Merch

Snap up some exclusive Swingset Takes Desire X merch HERE.

Back by popular demand, the “I Survived the CockFoam War” shirt, available HERE.

Theme Nights

Silly, childish, uncomplicated, and sickly sweet – and that's just the breakfast cereals! What do you think of when you think about Saturday Morning Cartoons? Comfy jammies? Silly characters? The beginning of a life long love affair with animation/anime? Or does your brain go somewhere else? Please share!

Come as your favourite iconic (or less than iconic) character or couple from stage or screen. Plunder the best/worst films, plays, or musicals that pop culture has to offer. Rocky Horror, Hedwig, Gone with the Wind, Bill & Ted, Romeo & Juliet. So. Many. Options.

A night full of vampires, villains, and their willing victims – lace, leather, and gothic splendor. No costume is too over the top, or too dark.

Come as your favorite, prince, princess, plucky sidekick, fairy godparent, or evil villain or henchperson. The only requirement here is that these stories all have to have (cough) happy endings. Kudos for the most bent, twisted, perverted, or original interpretation

Set your phasers to STUNNING! The universe is ours to discover on this night of sensual space folx, amorous aliens, and inter planetary sexploration. Pew pew pew!

When you think of heroes and villains where does that take you? Superman? Lex Luthor? Rey? Captain Phasma? Julius Caesar? Genghis Kahn? Catherine the Great? Madame Curie? Eliot Ness? Al Capone? Batman? Harley Quinn? Regardless, be your best or baddest (or both) sexiest self.

Shiny, sparkly, fluorescent and glowing or full of rainbows! Shine bright you sexy people!

Desire Collaborative Playlists

The Music Czar Dylan Thomas helps to curate music across the entire resort for our week. Below you can find 2022's playlists. Please feel free to add music to these lists, but Dylan has the final say.