Every year since 2012, we at Life on the Swingset: The Podcast host a full resort takeover of the greatest place on Earth: Desire Resort – Riviera Maya in Cancun, Mexico. This all inclusive resort boasts a beautiful beach, pool, and hot tub, four excellent restaurants, three full bars, and, most importantly, a place to be yourself.
Since every room at the resort is booked by our group, we are able to fully bend and shape the trip to be the most inclusive and spectacularly geeky trip that Desire sees all year.
On this trip, we curate theme nights, evening entertainment, music, activities, workshops, and more, and strive to bring together straight, bi, pansexual, and gay swingers, polyamorists, nudists, quads, triads, couples, exhibitionists, BDSMers, and those just curious and looking to explore.
We believe that everyone has something new, something exciting that they'd love to try, and we want to give the tools, education, space, and encouragement to do just that at The Swingset Takes Desire.
We host workshops on non-monogamy, anal play, flogging, and more. We are the first group to erect a full BDSM Dungeon for a night in the disco, complete with St Andrews Crosses, flogging benches, and a suspension station, along with workshops to unleash your inner dom or sub. Every year sees play parties, gang bangs, and orgies both hosted and pop-up, themed costume nights, live podcast recordings, karaoke, wine socials, cocktails, prizes and giveaways, foam parties, and just relaxing by the pool, beach, or in the hot tub.
It's all there for your exploratory delight, a sexy menu just waiting for you to participate as much or as little as you’re comfortable doing. There is no one way to do Desire, and we’d never presume to suggest which way is the perfect one for you.
The Swingset Takes Desire is a place to let go and be yourself, free from the confines of the boring part of the world, where we can embrace the fact that our lives truly aren't like other people's. Join us in the spirit of inclusivity, exploration, and glorious hedonism! You'll be glad you came.
Desire is an intimately sized resort, and the number of rooms available are limited and sell out fast. If you're interested in coming to paradise with us, it’s a great idea to fill out our booking request form to the right NOW!
Ginger Bentham is the co-host of the podcasts Life on the Swingset and Intellectual Foreplay and a queer polyamorous kinkster living the dream with her love Prof. As a sexcation provocateur, Ginger hosts events where Swingsetters from around the world find education, fun, and relationship enhancement in paradise. Through her writing, teaching, and podcasting, Ginger seeks to advance the progress of the next sexual revolution through mindful, loving connection.
Dylan Thomas is a co-host, producer, and editor of Life on the Swingset: The Podcast and The Gentleperverts’ Social Club. Through these podcasts, social media, conferences and communities, he speaks candidly about non-monogamy, kink, and non-normative sexuality, and offers platforms for people to speak on gender identity, equal rights, and intersectionality. He strongly focuses on offering learning opportunities to men with the hope they become stronger allies and better people.
“Our first trip was amazing! The Swingset group is hands down the gold standard.”
“SSDesire is a never fail week of hedonism and growth. An amazing combination of people, place, pleasure, and learning. We wouldn't miss it!”
"The only place we've ever found where you can have a two hour conversation about horror movies, as well as a two hour gang bang going on within a few yards of you."
"Whether you're swinger, poly, or kinky, you'll find like-minded people to explore and connect with in a safe, sane, consent-focused environment."
“Come for the experience, the discovery, the companionship, or just a really thorough fuck. Make it what you want, and leave your expectations at the door. You'll not be disappointed.”
"We met amazing people, had wonderful new experiences, and relaxed more fully than we had in years. We signed up for the next year before we left the resort!"
“These people are our tribe! Having found them, we'd move heaven and earth to join them in paradise every November.”
“Being in paradise with my love, surrounding by sexy nerds in various states of undress, is as close to perfect an experience as I can imagine. (Plus tacos & pizza at 2 am.)”
"SSDesire for us was an awakening that this type of inclusive community we've been looking for does actually exist."
"We have yet to find a group of people as diverse, welcoming, open, nerdy, kinky, thoughtful, self aware, and sexually fun anywhere but SSDesire."
“This is the most diverse, passionate, compassionate, sexy, & wonderfully geeky group of people we have ever met. We can't imagine life without the Swingset trip to look forward to.”
"In 10 years of going to Desire, we've never experienced the resort with the incredible amount of inclusiveness and kindness that this trip and group has."
“An absolutely transformative event - thoughtful, sex-positive, body-positive, bi-positive community, great education, & tons of sex. What more could you ask for?”
“It was amazing to have many welcoming, open minded, intelligent, and sexy people all gathered in the same place at the same time!”
"SSDesire is the highlight of our year!"
“This was hands down the best vacation of my life! A whole resort reverberating with the energy of love and affection!”
“This trip was absolutely amazing! It was an environment where we could be 100% ourselves, uncensored, & still be loved & accepted by a community.”
“The warmth and love present throughout the group changed my perception of ‘swingers.’ I wouldn't consider doing a trip like this with anyone else.”